Wedding Guest Etiquette

Being invited to a wedding in an honor. The couple will spend hours sorting out the guest list. If you are invited, then you are cherished by the couple.

Your actions and interactions can have a permanent effect on the relationship that you have with the couple. To have a positive impact on the relationship there are certain things you should do.

RSVP- make your decision to attend soon as possible and make sure you RSVP. The couple is depending on your RSVP to finalize wedding details based on your decision. It is appropriate to bring a gift.

Don't disregard the dress code. "Black tie means black tie," Don't show up in cocktail attire. Always err on the side of elegance and respect for the occasion.

If your invitation does not mention a plus-one, then you don't have the option to bring one.

Child free means no children. You should not inquire about these questions especially on wedding week.

The ceremony start time is on the invitation so please don't be late. You should arrive 15-30 minutes early. This will give you time to get settled and to enjoy some beautiful pre-wedding music.

A couple will invest in a professional photographer and videographer. Don't take pictures during the ceremony or during the first dances. Holding up your phone could ruin a beautifully planned picture.

Don't be late to the ceremony but don't be early to the reception. A wedding is a carefully timed event, and every minute is planned in detail. Most couples want you to experience the grand reveal of the ceremony site and the reception area. Follow the instructions on your invitation.

If you are assigned seats, please stay in those seats. A large amount of time is spent determining seating arrangements. Friendships, family dynamics and catering play a factor in where you sit.

Don't move any decor. This is potentially hazardous, and the client spent a lot of time and money on these arrangements to bring their vision to life.

Don't give an unannounced speech. This day is not about you, it is about the couple.

Your last-minute comments or suggestions might not be appreciated. The couple is stressed, and they have spent hours upon hours planning this event. Be gracious.

If you can't leave the drama at home, maybe you should sit this event out. Be civil, don't talk about past relationships or how much money is spent.

Wedding celebrations often include an open bar. Drink responsibly and pace yourself.

Gifts and cards are accepted but try to stick to the gift registry when possible. You may send your gift ahead of time if desired.

Lastly, smile and enjoy the festivities. Your couple is making lifetime memories so no Scrooge faces.